Younger children can be harmed by it, and older children resent it. I constantly hear parents say that they stopped visitation, or do not think they are entitled to visitation, because a child support payment hasn’t been made. Just because a parent doesn’t pay child support, does not mean that parent isn’t entitled to visitation.
Because of this, he could only have limited supervised parenting time until he could show he had tested clean for almost a year. Had he been honest with the Court, there may have been more leniency with moving his involvement with the children forward during the case, but his credibility was shot right from the start. Given the amount of history in dealing with this person and raising children with this person, being emotional around them can be understandable, but reports from Psychology Today advise not to fall victim to your emotions. My ex accused me of child abuse with guns, saying I was threatening them. This was a week after I finished my 4th year of school. Also the third time she called the police on me.
But whom you let around your child can become a great issue. Many things go into what in the child’s best interests, and stability of living arrangements is absolutely near the top of the list. Instead of focusing on your ex, keep the focus of your argument on yourself. This does NOT mean ignoring significant negatives of your ex – maybe he or she recently got a DUI or has a history of some type of abuse. What this means is focusing on the main elements that make you shine to the judge.
The courts let this man legally kidnap my child and hasn’t let me see or talk to her in 2 years. I feel like the court took any rights away from me. My step-daughter’s mother was killed in a car accident in 2016.
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Also, remember that a GAL and a custody evaluation might both say things you don’t like. They might recommend that your kids spend more time with your STBX than what you think is appropriate. The judge still can make decisions you think are wrong. With all of that in mind, if there’s any way that you can work something out voluntarily with your ex, that might not be a bad idea. If he has mental health issues he may not be willing to compromise or agree on anything. But if he is, that’s something to consider.
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Despite all your best efforts, your child will likely be aware of the fact you and your spouse are fighting over custody. And, for many children, the only thing they understand is that you’re fighting about them—not that you are trying to protect them. Children exposed to custody battles might feel guilty about “causing” the fight, or feel forced to take sides.
The hard feelings from the initial custody battle often linger. When one of you needs to modify the custody order , you might end up in court again rather than working together to submit an agreement to the court. In the end, what all this expense buys you is simply the chance to try to convince the judge that your child custody proposal is best for your child. To be successful, you’ll probably have to provide evidence that clearly leans in your favor as the judge evaluates the state’s best interests factors. The process of asking for and exchanging evidence in a court proceeding is typically called “discovery.” You must typically provide your spouse with copies of any evidence that you plan to use to support your arguments.
No, I now have custody of damaged children who hate their mother. You need to keep your sanity and your strength to be there for your children when they realize what is going on. I had evidence on my ex-husband’s cell phone where he was raping me while I was unconscious. Love it I had two brain surgeries to repair 3 of 5 aneurysms and after the second surgery, he filed for divorce. He had already assaulted me 4 months prior and was scheduled for court. His first wife lied to me and said that I would lose military insurance .
It’s like watching a movie you’ve never seen for the second time. Every thing the did before is so clear and obvious. When that happens you realize how predictable they actually are and you know their next action/reaction for every situation before they react. The absolute worst thing you can every do to a narcissist is call them out on their narcissism, tell them how they are going to react to a situation and then call them a narcissist when they act the way you said they would. Hell hath no furry like a narcissist you’ve exposed. Their sole purpose from then on is to destroy you by any means necessary.
Mediation usually helps parents set the stage for continuing communication after the divorce, and it costs considerably less than a court battle. Some parents think they can simply move, and nobody can tell them otherwise. There are a number of factors you need to look at if you are thinking of moving and a custody battle is involved. Please look at the statute and talk with an attorney before making any decisions. But we are still going through custody battle for my son. I’m married to a serviceman and He is also engage.
They are innocent children that didn’t ask for all this craziness. Their father that has not won the Father Award and his wife, and his mother has called DCF on my daughter. Now I am looking into taking recourse for false accusations.